Love is one thing everybody wants to believe in, be in, and lose themselves in, for the rest of their lives. We get into relationships because of the immense love we have for the other person. We get into relationships with the hope that if all goes well, the relationship might even go to the next level. But it’s also true that there are more downs than ups in a relationship. We all have faced this, haven’t we? And we also agree that when it comes to a troubled relationship, there’s a type of inertia around it.
There are times when things go way beyond our control, there are times we just can’t handle it or be a part of it anymore. We know deep inside that we don’t really deserve this; still, we don’t put an end to it. We’re scared that ending the relationship, especially if it’s almost a decade old, can initiate another trauma – one of being alone for the rest of your life. Because naturally, you’ve woven that person into your life and removing that woven part will lead to the unraveling of that tapestry, that you call your life.
But, dear people, you’re only complicating your life furthermore by not taking the plunge to end it. Yes, we know you took a leap of faith to be in love, but now you need to take another leap of faith to keep yourself happy. Let go and experience the freedom you’ve been missing for almost a decade. Here are a few real stories to help you understand why it’s okay to end it if it isn’t working out anymore.
Disclaimer: The stories given below are true but their names have been changed to maintain anonymity.
“I failed. I Couldn’t Cure Him Of His Depression With My Love”
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You can call it a whole lot of nothing. He just suddenly fell into this black hole of depression. I thought if I manage to take care of him a little more, shower him with my love, maybe it will fix him. It had no effect on him. Eventually, I got him to seek some medical advice. But he didn’t want any of it. He sought peace in anti-depressants. I tried my best, I let go of my self-respect too when he used to bad mouth me. A point came where I couldn’t do it anymore. I realized a person can’t change unless he/she really wants to. I tried for five years and then broke up. I still pray for him every day, hoping he’ll get out of it soon. That’s all I can do for now.
“We Both Wanted Different Things And Are At Different Stages In Life”
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I was 18 and he was 30 when we fell in love. We got married when I was 22 and he was 34. Now I’m 32 and he’s 44 and we’re divorced. In the beginning, the age difference didn’t really matter to us. But now in my 30s, I feel like I’m at the peak of my life. I want to go out and do things, explore everything that life has to offer. But he has already been there and done that. He just wants to retire and make children and settle down. I don’t want to do that just now. We tried to talk about it but things turned ugly. So, we had to let it go because neither of us was happy in it. ”
“Everything Was Fine With Me But Not Cheating”
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Our interests were entirely opposite. I loved reading books. She loved pub-hopping. She said she didn’t want to settle down. I said okay. But I couldn’t say okay when I found out that she had cheated on me once almost every year, in our 8-year-long relationship.
My every morning started by looking at her sleeping like an angel. She said I was her life. All of a sudden, the memories I had didn’t make sense or rather I had doubts about their authenticity. I chose to leave her. For me, those cracks could never be filled. And this was a complete heartbreak, so how could I even think of fixing it. I’d rather be in a relationship wherein I have my woman all for myself!
“We Got Married To Feel More Secure About Each Other, But That Was A Wrong Deci-sion!”
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Remember the old proverb, “Marry in haste, repent at leisure?” It’s anything but pleasant when certain proverbs give you a reality check, and that too in your own life. I had known him for only 3 months. I was a beautiful girl and he was this nerd. Everything was fine when we were dating but his insecurity about losing me kept increasing with every passing day. To solve this problem, we got married. I did it for him, to keep him happy. But, with time, things changed. We never felt secure about each other even after being in a marriage. But, still, I never gave up and tried for almost 12 years to make it work. We even had a beautiful daughter. But something was awfully wrong, we were just pushing ourselves to make it work. No matter what we did, we never had a heartfelt conversation. We always fought over petty things, we tried too hard to make things look like a bed full of roses. But, all this got unbearable. I couldn’t do it anymore. I decided to end our marriage. I’ve begun a new life with my daughter. And my daughter doesn’t miss him a bit. I’m happy. I’m much happier now because the burden of making someone happy is off my shoulders now.
There you go, we’re sure these stories might have made you understand that when the going gets tough, the tough get going. But, when it gets too much, just take that leap of faith and end it. Because, only when a chapter ends, the next one can begin. Have you been through something which is similar? Let us know in the comments below.
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